Dating someone who is poor
The bottom line is that if you realize that everything is fine and there is no “problem” here, it will be a helpful energy for him to be around. You don’t need to talk about it, you don’t need to help with it, you don’t need to reassure him… I’m going to make the assumption that this isn’t a ploy on his part to go on “cheap dates”.🙂 There are tons of guys out there who have complexes about their jobs and the amount of money they make and what it “means” about them.I’m not saying that you wouldn’t like him spending money on you, but it has nothing to do with love or that butterflies-in-your-stomach type feeling. A lot of guys fall into the trap of measuring their self-worth based upon how much money they make, what kind of job they have and their overall financial situation.
If you handle him like he has a problem that needs to be solved, he’ll feel like it really is a problem and he’ll feel even worse.
I’m not a very experienced dater so I’m unsure as to how to deal with this situation.
I like this man very much, I enjoy his company and he is incredibly kind.
That said, I’m not here to convince you that money matters. Mostly because society (or parents or peers) have pounded the idea “I’m not good enough” into most of our thick skulls.
That’s why it’s one of the most common causes of divorce.