Dating multiple people at once
Of course, once I met someone stellar, I stopped with the two-timing and focused my energy on one wonderful man.As an aside, in this day and age, dating two (or more) people at once is not considered duplicitous or “two-timing.” Until you have The Exclusivity Talk, you’re free to gad about, dating whomever in whatever quantity you desire.“It’s healthy to date multiple people if you aren’t ready for commitment and aren’t sure of what you are looking for, as long as you are honest with the people you are dating,” Levine says.In other words, if you’re ISO a diamond ring, dating three people at once is probably not wise.It should be said that there is definitely such a thing as running around like a headless chicken, dating far too many people to ever feel any semblance of happiness.So how do you know if what you’re doing is constructive or calamitous?
You may be a one-woman or one-man kind of gal, and that is totally OK.
“She hasn’t committed herself fully to one person, so she has invested less of herself,” Levine says of the woman who dates around.
This results in less anxiety than when you go all in with someone.
“You probably need to assess whether there is really some red flag that is holding you back from having an exclusive relationship with that individual,” she says.
If there’s no weird deal-breaker, perhaps “you are simply commitment-phobic,” she adds.